Reunions Make Me Dream

Reunions Make Me Dream

Lauren PesinMonday,23 February 2015

I was notified recently via Facebook that my 25th high school reunion is scheduled for November of this year. I’m one of those people that actually enjoy reunions, particularly my high school reunions. I went to a school in New England where you knew mostly everyone. I’ve known most people from my graduating class for 30 years or more. Every five years since 1990, I’ve attended my reunions and each one goes by in a flash. Every time I feel like it’s not enough time. Subsequently, I don’t get a lot of the normal anxiety of reunion goers.

In addition to the standard, I have to lose weight and do everything I can to look younger reaction, reunions often make me reflect on the fun we had, the years that have passed, and about my life now.

At my 20th reunion, I noticed we all looked pretty good and not too old. We all aged pretty well, minus the couple exceptions; a few classmates had the premature weathered look likely from drinking too much or living too hard a life.

After the obligatory chit chat about family, health, and overall status, I noticed I kept wondering the same things. I decided to scratch the itch and ask my classmates more pointed questions.

What do you do for a living? Do you like it?
If you could do anything, your dream job, what would it be?
Why aren’t you doing it?

I asked everyone the same questions. For the most part, people were working jobs they didn’t really like, but were content with. The responses typically indicated they paid the bills and allowed them time with the family. Some people (who others thought were the most successful) claimed they hated their jobs, worked too much, and hardly saw their kids. Several folks claimed they loved their jobs and couldn’t be happier, while a few others were stay at home parents that loved being a parent, but had never thought they would “stay home.” Some classmates surprised me; they had huge dreams of travel and success, but never finished college or flew on a plane. I don’t ask questions to judge people. I sincerely am interested in how people end up in their lives and jobs.

If these answers are truly a reflection of how people feel about their lives and jobs, it makes me wonder how we end up this way.

What factors influence or change our path between high school and professional?

If we break our path at age 30 or 40, is it possible to get back on our path?

Does our job become less important as we grow old? Does our family become more important?

Should you ever give up on your dream job? Is it possible to have a “day job” and “dream” as a hobby?

At my next reunion will people answer the same way?

I feel fulfilled having had a variety of experiences, serving in the military, living in different states, doing meaningful things, volunteering, and experiencing different cultures. I’ve had (and have) lots of fun and been very fortunate to have friends, family, a great love in my life and a beautiful son. However, I too have a. …BUT. I have seen and done a lot, BUT I too still have a dream.

Is it too late for my dream? Is it too late for your dream?

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