DEFECTIVE PERSPECTIVE

DEFECTIVE PERSPECTIVE

Adrienne BoettingerTuesday,28 May 2013

The Snap:

On Monday morning, I had a mini-meltdown. To be honest, things haven’t been going that great. My sister-in-law passed away last Sunday and this Friday my office will be disbanded; the lucky ones will keep our jobs but don’t know where we’ll be working and what we’ll be doing. But it wasn’t either of these situations that caused my hysteria. No, I lost it because my coffee pot broke. As I poured the water into the machine, it all leaked out of the bottom onto my countertop, down the cabinets, into the silverware drawer and the rest puddled up on the floor. I started to tear up in frustration but rather than throwing the carafe against the wall, I took a breath and decided I needed to correct my defective perspective.

The Download:

A story from my financial reporter pretend boyfriend, Kai Ryssdal, last week got me thinking about the need for perspective in one’s life (and before you start, yes I know he’s somewhat nerdy looking AND is married AND has 4 kids. He also makes financial news interesting and has a smiley voice). Kai interviewed a woman from Moore, Oklahoma who lost her fledgling business during last week’s devastating tornado. Gaydawn Magee (totally her real name) started a hearing aid business last year but didn’t let it get her down when the tornado crashed through her storefront.

Rather than be “grumpy” about an event that would bring many people to their knees, Magee counted herself lucky. She felt this way because she didn’t lose any friends or family in the disaster. “If I had a choice, I’d rather lose my business than my friends or children,” Magee said. She might not have survived if she hadn’t been on her way to be in a gun slinging historical reenactment type show in Tombstone, Arizona. That lady seems like someone you’d want to have a beer with or have help you rebuild your property after a natural disaster. She’s formidable but she knows what’s important in life and what’s not.

The thing is, no matter how bad you’ve got it, there is always someone who’s got it worse. Although some individuals seem destined to bear far more than their fair share of heartache, if we look around long enough we’ll always find someone whose grief is worse than our own, who needs help more than we do. If we’re able to help them, we should. Not because we’d want help in their position (though that is worth remembering) but because we can. In helping others, you’ll often find that your own problems become less overwhelming and your burdens lighten. So have a good cry or rant, eat some ice cream or have a cocktail (or both), and then pull up your grown-up panties and pitch in to help your neighbors, family, strangers, whoever.

Want to help those impacted by the tornado? Try the Food Bank, Red Cross, United Way or Humane Society.


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